OK SO I’M TOTALLY CONFUSED. SO THE MEDIA HAS DEFINITELY BEEN UP-SELLING VALENTINE’S DAY AND ALL ITS GLORY. I RARELY HEAR ANY MENTIONS OF WHAT OUR GREATS HAVE DONE TO CHANGE OUR CULTURE AND THE AFFECTS IT HAS HAD ON US THEREAFTER .
My husband and I do NOT celebrate ” VALENTINE’S DAY”. Don’t get me wrong, I did fall for the romantic ideas and gestures at a younger age. But life does teach you your greatest lessons. I remember our first valentine together, of course I was expecting a gift or some big grand gesture. Then my hubby says, “babe if I’m not showing you my love everyday, then something is wrong”. That’s when I got it, and Valentine’s day became irrelevant for me. There’s not a day that goes by that he doesn’t tell me or shows me how much he loves me. That’s a work in progress, that requires all 365 days of each year to accomplish. Not just one mere day. Marriage is simply learning to love and be with someone for the rest of your life. It takes work, time and effort….not a mere day.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her- Ephesians 5:25
The love of God is infinite, so why should man limit when to express our love to each other. Show me a bouquet of rose/flowers that lasts an entire year without watering it and I’ll be a believer again. Love requires nurturing and care.
Let’s focus on the Greats that gave every bit of love they had to make a change in our life, through their entire lives:
SIGNED BY BUTTERFLY:
So I met someone recently and the connection is so amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!….I mean any and everything I would want in a partner. He’s a gentleman, has the utmost respect for me and treats me nothing less than a Queen. I had to pinch myself to make sure I wasn’t dreaming, Lol But it was in that moment I had to catch myself and realize that I can live in the moment, and learn somethings about myself and about what it is I expect from my next relationship. This has been a great friendship and I strongly believe that God placed him in my life at the right moment and even if it doesn’t turn out to be anything more than that. I can truly say it wouldn’t really make a difference because, in him I see God’s way of helping me to see that the possibilities of finding someone who is going to love me unconditional and love my daughter just the same, is out there. I wouldn’t doubt it for a second, after experiencing this friendship. Choosing to be friends first allows us to feel no pressure to impress each other and we can be just as goofy and childish as we want to be at times or just seeing how much the person really sparks your interest. Finding a man these days who would rather call you and talk on the phone for hours rather than text you is very hard and I like that about him. He actually pays attention to what I’m saying. Instead of sitting on the couch watching sports, we take long walks on the beach. God is so amazing and he has been so active in my life these past two years . I have experience so much growth through putting him first and always in my life. Just making sure I consult him first before making any decisions. It’s truly worth it to completely trust the Lord and just let him carry you. I want to end with this that what ever you may be going through or have gone through, just take something positive from the situation and just allow yourself to experience growth because the greater the suffering the greater the blessing.
Having been in a relationship for the past 7 years I thought I had found my soul mate! I thought I knew exactly what I wanted in a partner and I knew I had found it in him. Six months ago that relationship came to an end, and at first it felt as if I had been sitting on a chair and someone pull it from under my bottom without warning. I felt pain, anger, betrayal, confusion and the list could go on. I could have chosen to feel sorry for myself and wallow in my own pain and suffering. Instead with the help of my loving sister’s advise I got up wiped away the tears and faced the music. That music was that God had a different plan for my life and what I had taken from that relationship where blessings, strength, love and lessons that have prepared me for whats to come. Sure there were days when I thought I had been in a relationship so long, that I have no idea how to start dating again. It was then I realized that all along I stayed in my previous relationship only because the situation fit the frame of the picture I was painting for my life and all the years that God tried to pull me away from it I kept fighting to stay in it! See we get so comfortable from time to time in situations that’s clearly not good for us and though God tries to show us the way he wants us to go, we fight. One thing I didn’t want to walk away from my situation being an angry woman. So I took some time out with my Lord one day and just prayed about it, that I would use it as a tool to teach me more about myself and what it is that God wants for me. I asked for patience to wait on God to place the right man in my life and that I would be able to know the difference between when I’m doing ME or what God wants for me.
Recently I’ve really come to realize and understand that we are not defined by our circumstances. Our joy resides in Christ (The joy of the Lord is my strength -Nehemiah 8:10) and him alone. With him I can find joy and peace in any situation, in any storm. Crisis reveals our true character. The way we deal with our crisis definitely determines who we are. Sometimes we tend to give the “devil” WAYYYY too much credit! Don’t get me wrong, he is real and he does exist. He will try and has been trying my faith. But my faith is bigger than him. My God is bigger than him. I am bigger than him. I believe God takes us through things to lead us to a better place. I’ve seen it continuously in my life and in the people I love lives. (God doesn’t give us more than we can handle- 1 Corinthians 10:13)
Philippians 4:13 “I can do everything through him who gives me strength.”
The devil as no control over what happens in my life, the ultimately decision maker and Author of my life is Christ my Savior! Period ….
I witnessed a love one go through a car accident and her entire reaction to the person at fault and the entire experience was positive all the way. Praising God every chance she got. Thanking him with every breath she was able to take. I was in awe, not because I’ve never seen this, but because in that moment I was reminded of his Grace and Mercy that has brought us a mighty long way. His hands wrapped around us, his love pouring through our souls. God is awesome! (Genesis 19:19 Behold now, thy servant hath found grace in thy sight, and thou hast magnified thy mercy, which thou hast shewed unto me in saving my life; and I cannot escape to the mountain, lest some evil take me, and I die:)
In concluding I will say this, God is still the author of my life- I trust him and I love him. I gave myself away so he could use me the day I got saved. I took up the cross and I’m walking with him, side by side. If he endured pain and suffering from mankind here on earth. Why would I be excluded? It’s a big misconception that being a Believer requires our lives to be perfect. That’s a myth! Move on and carry on with your cross, no matter how heavy it gets. He will help you.
Be blessed and loved through Christ my Lord. STAY ON THE RIGHT PATH, EVEN WHEN IT GETS ROCKY.