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Relationships!
I can count the few great relationships I have and sometimes I wonder if that’s good or bad. Whether good or bad I believe at some point we must be completely truthful to ourselves. This is my truth. Whenever I’m for you I give 150%. If you need and I have, your good. This is also why I limit the amount of “friends”, I allow in my life. I don’t want to spread myself too thin. After all I’m married to my very best friend and that’s my #1 priority when it comes to relationships. The problem I notice when I have really close girlfriends is that they become jealous of other relationships and I don’t know how to rationalize all that emotion and so I back out. One of my longest relationship with my ex-best friend, ended because I felt that we not only grew apart, but she no longer was the person I knew and I wasn’t the friend she needed at the time. She wanted someone to tell her the lifestyle she lived was ok. That it was excusable and I can’t lie or pretend to the ones I love and so it began to quickly fizzle. She wasn’t capable of balancing her relationship with me while dating. She would only draw close to me when she was heartbroken and after awhile that just didn’t work for me. I love her dearly and she’ll always have a place in my heart, but I felt like I needed to let her go for her to really find herself. Needless to say if she ever calls, I’ll be right here. Another amazing friend of mine, which was kinda awkward when our friendship ended. For her I knew she loved me because she was there for tremendously when my now husband and I were dating and separated. She was my rock. However when we got back together her relationship with her boyfriend started to feel like a competition with what I was trying to build with mine. It became obvious that they were competing instead of us learning from each other. This definitely led me to start having the natural relationships I was quickly forming. All of which included folks at least 10yrs older than I am. Which are so normal and natural that age doesn’t play a role or becomes an issue. I do know having a relationship with Christ plays an important role in the key relationships I now have. With Christ in them theirs no limit. Because of their relationship with him, it allows me to grow even more and realize my bad qualities as a friend. These are obviously my sides of the story and I’m well aware that theirs might be different . I forgave. Now that I’m writing this I don’t think I’ve ever expressed these feelings completely to them and maybe that needs to be apart of my healing process to grow more has a better person. This letter all started because of a recent fall out with my sister, who because I’ve always been truthful and extremely vocal in voicing my feelings. Didn’t realize how much I was hurting her, even if I didn’t like the decisions she was making. Even if I felt she changed completely and wasn’t capable of balancing our friendship. I hurt her because sometimes, this I’m learning, as a friend sometimes you just need to listen, be a shoulder and more importantly sometimes you have to step AWAY. Give that person room to adjust. We aren’t going to have all the answers as friends. Even if I don’t understand her decision and I might never. But I need to step away, let go and allow the same God we both serve to work and repair. To restore. Now the hardest revelation is this. Restoring relationships may mean that they will never be the SAME! They might get better or even fade. But we aren’t God and should never judge, just love like Christ did. More importantly we need to PRAY. Pray for each other and the things you don’t like. Not to work in your favor, but that God will do what’s best. So has I embark on a journey to restore and let go, or continue to build these relationships. I will now focus on the most important one…my marriage and Praise God for his complete coverage of it.
Letting go and allowing Christ in every area of my life, ultimately all our relationships should bring him glory!πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ‘‚πŸ‘‚πŸ‘‚πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘βœŒβœŒβœŒβœŒβ˜β˜β˜β˜β˜β˜β˜β˜β˜β˜β˜β˜πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ
Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is .- James 5:16

SIGNED: BUTTERFLY

Broke up with Procrastination and boy was he upset!

So today I concluded that I’ve had way too much pregnancies and not enough fulfilled births of my dreams, visions and ideas. I’ve sadly went through way more abortions. I simply blamed this all on my ex-friend, “Procrastination”. He lied to me with dreams of just taking my time and letting my life just flow! That everything would be o.k, just sit back and wait. His close friend doubt always tagged along and made every word he said more true for me. They made my life a bit easier, less worrying and less time to take heed to my priorities. I don’t believe in having abortion with a real child, with life. Yet my life was constantly in the clinic. No care in the world. I’ve learnt this, if I choose not to birth the purposes God has given me. I will be sure to see someone else living out the blessings that was intended for me and the ones I care about! So far beyond myself, I decided for those who believe in me to let our friendship go. To move forward with a brand new attitude and brand new friends, Faith, Hope and Victory! Procrastination hasn’t taken this news so well and with his ingenious plan he came up with this, crashing my computer. Due to all the time spent with him, I haven’t backed up all my latest photos to my hard drive. So bye bye awesome shots! I felt crushed at first. My pictures are all like my kids, my heart shattered. But joy cometh through the grace of God and my husbands comforting words. So good try ex-friend, but this ride is over. I shall create even more beautiful memories and capture the essence of Christ better than I have before. He is that Great! I am ready Lord to have has many births as you have sown your seeds in me. Pregnant with all your wondrous purpose and can’t wait to see your glorious delivery of the manifestation of your truth being seen in my life. Thank you Jesus in advance.

SIGNED BUTTERFLYΒ Β 

About Us:)

So we realized our “about me”, doesn’t really clarify who we are. So lets start with this. We are two female cousins, who act more like sisters and best-friends. We are in our early 20′s. We go by the names “Butterfly” and “Tulip”. Butterfly will be sharing mostly about her passion for photography, marriage, her relationship with Christ Etc. Mostly about her new role has a wife and living in NY. Tulip is a Awesome Mother of a beautiful 2 year old girl. Who will be sharing her experiences of being a single mother in the army and stationed in the beautiful Oahu, Hawaii. We are both Jamaicans! Yeah! We are Christians who love the Lord and our entire being revolves around Β Christ and his call on our lives. We were inspired to start this blog to inspire others, to learn from others and to share new things we learn through our daily journey. We love our lives despite all our struggles and shortcomings. We hope you will be just has inspired and excited to go on this journey with us. We love living in God’s Promise Land. It’s pretty dope if you take the time out to enjoy it :)

 

Friends FIRST!

So I met someone recently and the connection is so amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!….I mean any and everything I would want in a partner. He’s a gentleman, has the utmost respect for me and treats me nothing less than a Queen. I had to pinch myself to make sure I wasn’t dreaming, Lol :-) But it was in that moment I had to catch myself and realize that I can live in the moment, and learn somethings about myself and about what it is I expect from my next relationship. This has been a great friendship and I strongly believe that God placed him in my life at the right moment and even if it doesn’t turn out to be anything more than that. I can truly say it wouldn’t really make a difference because, in him I seeΒ  God’s way of helping me to see that the possibilities of finding someone who is going to love me unconditional and love my daughter just the same, is out there. I wouldn’t doubt it for a second, after experiencing this friendship. Choosing to be friends first allows us to feel no pressure to impress each other and we can be just as goofy and childish as we want to be at times or just seeing how much the person really sparks your interest. Finding a man these days who would rather call you and talk on the phone for hours rather than text you is very hard and I like that about him. He actually pays attention to what I’m saying.Β  Instead of sitting on the couch watching sports, we take long walks on the beach. God is so amazing and he has been so active in my life these past two years . I have experience so much growth through putting him first and always in my life. Just making sure I consult him first before making any decisions. It’s truly worth it to completely trust the Lord and just let him carry you. I want to end with this that what ever you may be going through or have gone through, just take something positive from the situation and just allow yourself to experience growth because the greater the suffering the greater the blessing.

Signed Tulip

Being CLOSE to Christ….

I LOVE being close to water….it makes me feel so close to Christ. I love worshiping near the ocean. The sea reminds me of him…it reminds me of his great big love, of the fear and respect I have for him, of how he continues to create and make anew everything from nothing….how beautiful he is. How he continuously washes away all my sins, all my faults, all my fears. How he inspires me and give me a fresh new start every time I so desire one. How warm, gently and loving he can be, yet if he decides his jealousy for me can roar and create the worst storm. Yet my trust and faith in him lets me know that he will only hold me close and part the deepest sea for me if needed…MY GOD IS AWESOME.

Signed Butterfly

 

NOT DEFINED BY MY CIRCUMSTANCES…

Recently I’ve really come to realize and understand that we are not defined by our circumstances. Our joy resides in Christ (The joy of the Lord is my strength -Nehemiah 8:10) and him alone. With him I can find joy and peace in any situation, in any storm. Crisis reveals our true character. The way we deal with our crisis definitely determines who we are. Sometimes we tend to give the “devil” WAYYYY too much credit! Don’t get me wrong, he is real and he does exist. He will try and has been trying my faith. But my faith is bigger than him. My God is bigger than him. I am bigger than him. I believe God takes us through things to lead us to a better place. I’ve seen it continuously in my life and in the people I love lives. Β (God doesn’t give us more than we can handle-Β 1 Corinthians 10:13)

Philippians 4:13 “I can do everything through him who gives me strength.”

The devil as no control over what happens in my life, the ultimately decision maker and Author of my life is Christ my Savior! Period ….

I witnessed a love one go through a car accident and her entire reaction to the person at fault and the entire experience was positive all the way. Praising God every chance she got. Thanking him with every breath she was able to take. I was in awe, not because I’ve never seen this, but because in that moment I was reminded of his Grace and Mercy that has brought us a mighty long way. His hands wrapped around us, his love pouring through our souls. God is awesome!Β (Genesis 19:19 Behold now, thy servant hath found grace in thy sight, and thou hast magnified thy mercy, which thou hast shewed unto me in saving my life; and I cannot escape to the mountain, lest some evil take me, and I die:)

In concluding I will say this, God is still the author of my life- I trust him and I love him. I gave myself away so he could use me the day I got saved. I took up the cross and I’m walking with him, side by side. If he endured pain and suffering from mankind here on earth. Why would I be excluded? It’s a big misconception that being a Believer requires our lives to be perfect. That’s a myth! Move on and carry on with your cross, no matter how heavy it gets. He will help you.

Be blessed and loved through Christ my Lord. :) STAY ON THE RIGHT PATH, EVEN WHEN IT GETS ROCKY.

Signed Butterfly

Black Marriage Day…..3/25/12

Here’s something we don’t hear about, “BLACK MARRIAGE DAY”. Which was founded ten years ago by the Wedded Bliss Foundation to celebrate marriage in the Black community. Sunday March 25 is Black Marriage Day, and all across the country amazing events were held to celebrate marriage in the Black community. Being in our 3rd month of marriage (5 yrs together), this is a rather uplifting to know that people are still fighting for the sanctity of marriage in today’s society. Marriage is not a prison, you are not just tied down and your life does not end with marriage. You enter into a covenant with Christ and your partner to share a lifetime together.Β  We are a life-struggling couple, who deal with bills, disagreements and conflicts, but we do it together, as husband and wife, and we love that we have each other’s back and take peace in knowing we have each other’s support. I feel so blessed to wake up next to my best-friend each day, to create beautiful memories each day and to learn to love each day more than I did the day before. Love is real because Christ is real, because of his ultimate sacrificial expression of love to us. Enables me to love my husband with all my being without holding back. God is the centerpiece in our marriage. The ultimate decision maker. Our Guide, our source, our provider….even when we fall short to each other. We know the success of our marriage will not rely on our own strength. He ultimately holds this marriage together. God loves marriage – He created it. And He will bless your marriage if you’ll let Him!

Ecclesiastes 4:12

Theos ein Agape- God is Love :)

 

Signed Butterfly

Life

Hey world I hope your day is as beautiful as mine, i’m spending quality time with my beautiful daughter exploring our God bless world from her level. It’s so amazing how curious she is in finding out new things about her environment and I feel so proud of how smart she has become at such a young age. She’s now in her language milestone and at only a year and half she thinks she has already master having a conversation. So far her favorite words include, Oh my gosh!, OHHHH what happen and WOW!! I feel so blessed each day that I’m given the opportunity to shape such a beautiful thing as life and to be able to influence her thoughts, attitude and beliefs. It’s such a delicate responsibility and to think that so often this blessing is taken for granted and even more so taken advantage of. I have become a better person, a more joyful, open minded and patient person since the birth of my LOVE BUG! wouldn’t change it for the world, thank you Lord!

 

Signed Tulip